Intentional Living

Honestly, I didn’t know how to write this blog, I didn’t know where to begin, what to name it, etc. Because this is a topic that connects to many other major topics and it is easy for one to lose track of what’s writing.

I’m talking about INTENT today. And that connects to a lot of other concepts like the power of choice, purpose, essentialism, etc. I’ll try my best to convey all that’s connecting to INTENT, without getting overwhelmed by this inter-connectivity.

First, even though not in chronological order, we’ll see what’s INTENT. INTENT is a “FIRE”, I mention in my book. Of course, if you have already read my book, you know how a dream, wish, intent, desire, and craving are related. And you also know the candlestick analogy. I’ll paste an excerpt from my book itself to know what is INTENT.

“The intent is the controlled desire! And in my early days, I was confused with intent as desire, desire made me very miserable, and then I realized that it is the intent that you need to accomplish anything, something that has the intensity to push you to your maximum abilities and doesn’t burn you at the same time. You call it intent, purpose, the ‘why’ power, fire, determination, You can call it passion, whatever, but it is something that is of high intensity like a desire but at the same time in control. To make it simple, we’ll just call it ‘THE FIRE’. The intent is Productive restlessness, productive entropy or if you don’t like the word productive, let’s say controlled entropy.”

The power of intent can be understood by understanding the relationship between intent, purpose [life purpose, here], and choice. Essentially, PURPOSE is an INTENT for life. When you have INTENT in your life, there’s a certain energy or enthusiasm, or you can say DRIVE in your life. As mentioned earlier, it is a productive kind of entropy, it makes it easy to overcome inertia/resistance.

When we dissect what is actually working in your life when you’ve set an intent, in the now, we’ll notice it is the power of CHOICE. INTENT and CHOICE are inseparable. Your intent is influencing your choice, in the now. And the choice you make now is influencing your intent too. And again, as mentioned in the book, the choices you make every day will form HABITS. And habits can break or make a life, you know that.

And if you look at the core, you’ll see that the power of INTENT, is mainly, the power of FOCUS. Concepts such as the Dopamine detox (which has nothing to do with the neurotransmitter, it’s a pseudo-concept trying to imply intentional living), essentialism, or even minimalism, “The One Thing”, intentional or conscious living, etc are all just offshoots of this same core. But FOCUS is just one face of the core of an intent.

The other wing of the core is intensity. The intensity helps in two ways actually, one, you can do a lot in less time. But of course, the focus is also helping you do that. If you can recall the candlestick analogy, a blazing fire on a candle can burn up the wick faster. And spiritually that means, you burn up your pile of Karma at a faster pace, that’s super good obviously. And two, again coming to the candlestick analogy, if you can remember that magic candle we used to get as “FREE” for buying two chocolates, it wouldn’t go out if you blew it, it would relight itself. Similarly, intensity, keeps you upright, no matter how much your circumstance is pulling you down. This again connects to the previous fact that, with this intensity, you can handle much more in this life. Concepts like willpower, “so good they can’t ignore you”, etc are all offshoots of this core.

So, you can imagine intent as point-focused sunlight under a magnifying glass on a sunny day. It is point-focused, as you can see. And super intense if you happened to place your finger under that magnifying glass. Ok, so I hope you’ve got to know the power of intent by reading all the way through. But there’s still a key piece missing from this whole puzzle. And that is awareness. An individual sets an intent based on his awareness, right? And the questions like what intent to set? etc falls into the lap of awareness.

What I’ve mentioned in this blog is just the second chapter: THE FIRE in my book, THE FLOWER OF FULFILLMENT. It’s in the further chapters, that I help the readers answer the questions concerning the intent, as mentioned above. I would apologize to you for mentioning my book multiple times in this blog, but I plead not guilty because for one, this blog originates from my book and hence it demands giving credit to my book. And two, because, no matter how many times or how much I yell about my book, it’ll still be under-promoted, and hence remain an underrated book, in my opinion. Because if the insights in it could change my life, then it can do that to every reader.

Thank You
Sanath Kumar Naibhi

Becoming Deep

In the blog: People don’t want good, I write something similar. However, this blog is practically more useful I believe. We are talking about depth today – from deep attention to deep personalities.

1 – Deep attention

Everything great arises from great attention – from artistry to liberation. From getting into the state of “Flow” to awakening your latent energy, everything requires great attention. When there’s no deep attention, how can there be deep learning? When there isn’t deep learning, how can there be deep work? And, what can anyone achieve without deep learning and deep work?

The role of attention is very well known to most people and yet people are getting accustomed to 15 secs of content to get knowledgeable or entertained or inspired. It’s only when there’s deep attention, can there be deep experiences. However, everyone’s attention span is decreasing a whole lot, day by day. Social media is definitely a major ‘blame’. But still, it’s a “blame”. Because don’t we agree that the power to choose, is always in our hands?

2 – Deep conversations

If not none, I have very less friends. Why? Because I don’t like to make superficial or even artificial conversations for the sake of it. It’s very hard for me. Asking tough questions and making deep conversations are how I make friends. Masking my personality in the hopes of making a friendship is not something I do. Unless there are deep conversations about various topics, how can you know the other person? The fact that someone asks deep questions and gets me involved in deep conversations itself tells a lot about that person, doesn’t it? But if you look around, or if you meet anyone, people are only having superficial conversations. They are unwilling to take off their social masks and be their true self in front of the other person and ask deep questions to make a deep conversation. Why? Most people are afraid they’ll lose that relationship. They want to “fit in”. Is any relationship worth it to fake yourself? How great it would be if we could talk about and try to solve each other’s internal struggles!

3 – Deep thinking

The problem, as mentioned in my blog: The Biggest Problem for Humanity, is that we don’t think, and not enough. And of course, everything is interconnected here. When one doesn’t have great attention power, how can he/she think deeply? It’s not possible because of 2 reasons: One, the obvious one, it’s because when one has a low attention span, he/she cannot concentrate long enough to think deeply, and two, since one hasn’t spent time in any form of deep learning, there merely exists anything in his/her mind to think deeply, let alone the ability to think deeply. *And here, as mentioned in that blog too, think refers to reflection, imagination, etc, all forms of thinking.

4 – Deep personality

When there’s less depth in one’s attention, hence experience, less depth in conversations, hence less deep relationships, and due to less deep thinking, will one’s personality be less deep. As I said, all of these aspects are so much intertwined. How can there be deep conversations when there’s a not-so-deep personality, to begin with?

This is not a rant, at least I hope it didn’t come across that way. By looking at these points, I think we can try to work on ourselves to deeply expand our attention, and hence learn deeply, do deep work, and have deep experiences. We can try to ask deep questions to make deep conversations. We can try to think deeply and hence build ourselves into great personalities. I hope this was a deep one 🙂

Thank You

Sanath Kumar Naibhi

Monthly Wrap! (October)

Monthly Wraps are blogs that are up on the last Sunday of the month which include:

  1. Blogs of the month
  2. Book recommendations 
  3. What did I curate? Resources I’m binging on – of course, I’ll be choosing the major ones. Just a brim of how much I curate!
  4. Reminders & Reflections to ponder – Of various of my reflections of the month, I’ll choose one or a few. And some re-realized reminders!
  5. My writing journey/ my book updates 

Here’s October’s “Monthly Wrap!”

Blogs I wrote this month:

  1. Blog 75: The Tragic Drama
  2. Blog 76: Hardships & Pain
  3. Blog 77: Write, write better!
  4. Blog 78: “I am worthless”

Book Recommendations:

This month I could read only 2 books:

  1. The hidden powers of Gayatri Mantra by Om Swami. Books like these motivate a Sadhaka to get more aggressive in his Sadhana and continue with great patience.
  2. The Ancient Science of mantras by Om Swami

What I curated:

Movies:

1. Martian, 2. Lion, 3. Dejavu, 4. Thurthu Nirgamana, 5. Sita Ramam, 6. Lucky Man, 7.Chhichhore, 8. Cars 3, 9. A bug’s life, 10. Planes – 2, 11. Sing 2, 12. Orphan: The First Kill.

Series:

  1. Marvel’s Daredevil [Completed]
  2. Marvel’s She-Hulk [Completed]

Trailer:

  1. Marvel studio’s Ant-Man and The Wasp: Quantumania Trailer
  2. Gandhadha Gudi | Official Trailer

Must watch YouTube videos:

  1. The Origin & Rise of MrBeast | Full Documentary You can see the depth in him. So inspirational!
  2. MrBeast | Full story It clearly shows how he’s striving to be an artist. And of course, his studio is insane!

Reminders & reflections to ponder:

  • The truly wealthiest person is one who has the courage, (i.e ability to exercise his freedom) to live the lifestyle he wishes to and which in turn gives him health and the freedom to do what he loves, create art and serve mankind!
  • Maathadorige olle vichara kodu. Kelasa maaduvavarige kelasa. Or, in general, give great concepts to artists, and give work to one who has the urge to.
  • Ragas are way more dynamic for them to be labeled as to depict one emotion or one bhava or one rasa. And hence it is stupid to make rules not to play or practice certain ragas in certain times and seasons. Rules & restrictions have no place in creativity. They can be voluntarily put in place by the artist himself to deliberately soar creativity. But not externally. A prescription suggested for the best use case for a raga is acceptable. However, withholding an artist’s creative urge will do no good to anyone, does it?
  • The question is, do you want to die rich or do you want to live rich, or both?
  • The more you do something, the more you want to do it
  • Irrespective of what and how much you know, your progress in the physical world depends on what and how much you can do with what and how much you have.

My Writing/Book update:

  • The sequel to my first book hasn’t moved this month.
  • However, the other book I’m writing on learning music has made decent progress.

Thank You,

Yours Loving,

Sanath Kumar Naibhi

“I am worthless”

Have you ever felt like you are worthless? Or are you one among the few who feel it very often? Believe me, I’m one of them. But if you said yes or no, this blog sheds some light & brings some clarity. If not worthless, have you ever felt like no matter what aspect of life you want to work towards, you seem like a rookie or an amateur? If yes, continue reading.

First of all, even though this is obvious, it doesn’t harm to mention that, you need to observe when you feel that way and know what type of situations or people makes you feel that way. There can be various reasons you feel that way. Mainly:

  1. Comparing: When you see someone who has got something you want so badly, you start comparing that particular aspect of your life to theirs. And obviously, that leads to disappointment. 
  2. Perspective: When you start thinking in a third-person perspective, it may be your friends or relatives or even a family member, you might see how your life is not good, or even, worse according to that person. 

To solve these, is very simple, in theory at least. Like removing thorns by thorns, or diamond cut by diamond, we can eliminate these roots of disappointments in their own way.

WISDOM:

  1. COMPARE: We can solve the disappointments caused by comparison, by comparing with ourselves, our past self, instead with others. By seeing how we’ve moved in the awareness timeline, we can be grateful for our growth.
  2. CHOOSE: We can solve both comparison and third person perspective with one perspective shift, and that is, to see it as an INSPIRATION or an INSIGHT instead of it being intimidation. I mean, as I said, when you see someone who has got something you want so badly, you may tend to feel emptiness in you, or may even resort to envy or jealousy, etc. In other words, you are feeling intimidated by the greatness of the other person. However, when you bring back your rational and wise mind, you’ll realize, when you see greatness, it might be MASTERY, BEAUTY, WEALTHY (not just in money, being wise is also “wealthy”), you must get INSPIRED and take in insights rather than feeling intimidated. Don’t you think so? Moreover, intimidation doesn’t take you anywhere, whereas, strong INSPIRATION & great INSIGHTS can shoot you to great heights! So, it comes down to what you CHOOSE! By choosing to get inspired, you’ve turned “rookie for life” into a good thing, as it continuously drives you!
  3. TALLER TREES: We can solve the “I am worthless” problem by taking a peek into reality. And the reality is, no matter how much you grow in terms of anything, there will be “Taller Trees”. There will be a person better than you. So, if you make it this way that you feel great about yourselves only when you are the best in the world, then it’s time to acknowledge that the reality is not in your favor. 
  4. RACING TIME: The ultimate wisdom (if realized) you get from looking into reality is that, even if you compare with yourselves and choose to get inspired by others, you may still feel disappointed, because, you’re racing against time. Anything you choose in life that’s of great significance requires time. A great deal of time. And you have no control over time, and as of now, you don’t know time travel either. Whatever greatness you’re after, it is not something that happens overnight, right? An artist can’t become the epitome of MASTERY just after he decides to become that way, it’s PRACTICE every day, that leads to MASTERY. And if it helps, you can also adopt the mindset of a yogi, he knows that realization takes a lot of time, in terms of multiple lifetimes, depending on his KARMA and his eligibility in total. But still, he continues to meditate and does his SADHANA with full zeal!
  5. NOW: The above insights point to this, it’s the JOURNEY that matters. And what is a journey? A series of present moments, right? It’s only in the “now” that you get to beat time, as it is only in the “now”, that you get to be without regarding any significance to time. So, do not worry about the result, just focus on the work now!

With these wise insights, I believe, you can come to the realization as to what to do when you feel “worthless” or like a “rookie for life”. Do what you’ve got to do, DO GOOD ANYHOW, in the NOW! That’s all you’ve got to do. Once you set yourself an INTENT, all you’ve got to do is move towards it, one step at a time, one after the other.

If you liked reading my blog, please consider reading my book – THE FLOWER OF FULFILLMENT.

THANK YOU

SANATH KUMAR NAIBHI

Write, write better!

Writing is like listening to you talk. The ultimate self-talk listening practice. And hence, you’ll discover yourself as you write and it magically works the opposite way. It not only unravels what you truly are but it can also transform you. In simple words: You are what you write! You write through what you are, and you can become what you write about.

Writing may change your life! I’ve tried to put that across through my first blog & blog 42: Reasons to write every day and even in my book THE FLOWER OF FULFILLMENT. However, I felt there’s still more I could do in embracing what writing could do, and specifically, in this blog, I thought of sharing a few practical points that might help you become better at writing.

First of all, when I say writing, it is writing your own words. It is something out of your own reflection. And it’s not something you write just because you have to. I’m not referring to content writing or copywriting here.

At first, I thought there is a split here:

  1. Writing for yourself
  2. Writing for people

But as I moved through my writing journey, I realized that there isn’t any split here. If you want to get better at writing, either for the public or just for yourself, it’s all about the simple practices that you do consistently.

How to become a better writer?

  1. Observe – It’s what artists do right? See what no one else could. But do they do that? Read further to know. 
  2. CaptureNote-taking changed my life!
  3. Think – Like I mentioned in my blog: The Biggest Problem to Humanity, when I say “THINK”, Reflection, self-interrogation, wondering, pondering, visualizing, whatever you may call it, I mean all of it. 
  4. Repeatedly repeat steps one to three – How can artists see what no one else could? Simply observing does not create that magic. The magic is in the loop. When you observe something with what you’ve previously captured and thought of and interpret what you observed based on that, that creates magic. [There is a risk here, of course, you may tend to lose sight of the truth. For that, you need to have to be great at discrimination (Viveka). But that’s an entirely different topic I’ll not touch on in this blog.] So, even though I’ve mentioned “observe” as the first point, I think it’s not in that particular order. Because even to utilize what you observe, you need to have captured, you need to think, don’t you think? Anyway, the order doesn’t matter. Because probably there isn’t one.
  5. Info vs Reflection – Write what I’ve realized vs write what I’ve read. Try not to write just because you’ve thought of something. Write what insight those thoughts led you to. Write around that inference. Without it, why write? Especially if you’re writing for a public blog, please remember that if someone has to trade their time for your writing, make sure it’s worth it. And understand that writing is not just a way to transfer information. It’s a way to move someone. It must either bring awareness or inspire people! 

And here are a few key practices that can help you observe, capture, and think.

  1. Log – Summarizing or even detailed writing about your day at the end of it. Or you may even choose to write in the next morning, or do it once a week. This will help you see your life from a wider perspective, recognize patterns in your behaviors and keep track of your life. It helps you both capture moments of your life and also observe patterns and can even lead to deep thinking sessions.
  2. Journal – This is the self-talk that reveals your ‘self’. It may be like a brain dump when you’re overwhelmed and feeling low. When you write why you are feeling how you are feeling, you’ll find answers, and you’ll meet ‘you’. 
  3. Note-taking – Note-taking is the practice used to collect everything from within and from external resources, but mainly, do this to capture your self-talk, which is noteworthy. That is, mainly use note-taking to capture those insights that emerged from within. At least, that’s how I use it. Then, of course, you can use it to capture “resources” from external sources. And to capture info that you don’t want to clog up your brain’s memory, I move such notes to the “Archive” category.  
  4. Blog – You can either have a personal blog or a public blog or both even like I do. Blogs are like writing prompts but blogs make you more committed. At the least, writing blogs will help you keep the practice going. Writing blogs helps especially when you are committed to writing consistently, as it naturally forces your brain to come up with ideas to write about consistently and when you choose to go public, it makes you socially accountable and provides valuable feedback.
  5. Big Project – It might be a novel, non-fiction, or a storyline for a movie. This is something very essential if you ask me. You may know how much I embrace people’s need to learn to use what they’ve learned and be what they were trained for. Engineers should build, artists must make art, and scientists must innovate. Similarly, writers must write! All the practices mentioned above should push you into this. If that happens, that means you’re on the right track! That means you are practicing the art of writing well! Very well indeed if you are able to complete such big projects.

I believe this blog was at the least a provoking thorn for you to start writing, note-taking, journaling, etc.

Thank You,

Sanath Kumar Naibhi  

Hardships & Pain

What comes to your mind when you read the word ‘pain’? Did you remember a movie line or did you remember your worst pain? If you said yes to the latter, what kind of pain was it?

Hardships are not just when it’s only slavery, imprisonment, poverty, etc, all that you’ve read about or watched movies that feature it. Of course, ‘external hardships’ seem the only real pain because they are more dramatic & cinematic.

However, internal hardships can be equal or even more hard and painful.

One is not poor just because he has less money. One may be considered to be in the worst poverty when one has lost all hope in life. When there’s not even one drop of hope left within, that’s when you are the poorest, that’s poverty!

And discrimination may not be evident as Blacks & White as in racism. Or as gender discrimination or by how you look.

People’s evaluation of a piece of work that has been created by an individual based on how many other people have viewed it and liked it or even based on ‘who’s offspring is that individual who has created this work’ is also a form of discrimination, don’t you think?

When you are in the system, and you want to escape, or when you want to lead through your work of mastery, but the system doesn’t let you, it tries to manipulate you to give up the excellence you’ve worked for. And there, you are indeed a slave, indeed imprisoned.

It is not just torturous when you are in a gas chamber. It is torturous when you are forced to drink mediocrity!

Ok, I’m not here to rant or ultimately to make you feel sad. Since now we have the same context on what hardships and pain are, I can continue to write further. And if you’re experiencing or have experienced an internal hardship recently, I want you to know I’m here for you. I’m all ears, pour out all the pain onto me, I understand your struggle was equivalent to fighting a war.

And by understanding that internal hardships can be equivalent or even more painful, we’ve got ourselves a practical tip, a virtue, a habit we can install in our lives: Install compassion towards all people around you. Acknowledging that, mental or psychological traumas can be highly painful, will give you the power to recognize and move to be there for someone who’s suffering from such hardships.

What makes hardships & pain?
It’s how we feel. Wait, I’m not saying ”you should choose to feel good or to be happy”. Yes, that is there, but not to avoid pain. That is when you’re done dealing with your pain. It is a hardship and painful because we’re not prepared, we are not comfortable, and we are unaware of something and the hardship & pain are your guides to moving towards knowing that you didn’t know, moving towards awareness.

Hardships are mere excuses, pain is the powerful catalyst ultimately trying to move you towards awareness. To move you from the dark to at least a glimpse of light. Even though it feels like the opposite, essentially, both hardships and pain are (maya) delusional, they are not real. But they are indeed a great tool if you acknowledge them as such. And this applies, especially to internal hardships.

Hardships are the initial ignitors, they are the situations that lead to you being in a highly uncomfortable state. Pain is the element that forces you to look into what the problem is. When you see it that way, you’ll realize how essential pain is. Without pain, we would altogether avoid trying to solve the problem.

Now, I’m not saying you should be grateful for the hardships as they arrive. No, instead you must face your hardships, feel the pain to understand from where it is originating, and understand what the universe is trying to teach you through them. And then, be grateful that you could move towards the light, and for the hardship and the pain that helped you do so.

In other words, do not assume or believe pain is good for the sake of it and keep living the same life. If there was a hardship and if there was pain, that clearly means your life got to change. Try to understand what that is and do something about that. It’s not gonna be easy, I’ll tell you. Sometimes it becomes very hard to decrypt what the universe is trying to say.

Overused words like “Hard work, work hard, or no pain no gain” has made us believe that hardships are good just for the sake of it. They’ve made us believe that ”working hard” or in other words, working in pain for something that is irrelevant and meaningless for years together is ok, or even good!

No. Pain isn’t good for you if you didn’t change. And if you’re experiencing the same pain over and over again, that means you didn’t grow and you are harming yourself. And as told in my Blog 69: The Biggest Problem to Humanity, it is not thinking enough that leads to such painful loops.

I hope through this blog, you got some notion of how one must view their hardships and pain as.

Thank You
Sanath Kumar Naibhi

The Tragic Drama

In my blog 50: Are you a cog in the machine? I talked about the screwed system, but not very deeply. In this blog, I’ll not only go deep into what the problem is but into “why does it continue to exist?” and through it, try to understand our responsibilities in trying to solve it.

The current system of students going to educational institutions for the sole intention of making money after is definitely screwed. Students choose a college based on how good the campus selection is and how many students get employed after being through that college. And then there is another side of the coin, the employers naturally are not interested in your grades but your skills, but still, the degree is necessary, why? And since you are a fresher, they’ll squeeze you to the max. for the tiny fees they pay you.

Why is it screwed?
Because people in it aren’t living happily and not living the life of fulfillment. Whether it be a college student or a fresher (employee), they’ll not have time to do the vital things in their life. You ask them to meditate, practice an art form, write in a journal, practice yoga, or do something they love for at least a few hours a day (because anyway, they’ve chosen not to do that throughout the day), they’ll say they have no time. For the decision they should have made based on how the process will be, they chose it based on the final result. And that is always a plan to fail. Here, fail at living, they fail at living a life of fulfillment. That’s just the beginning.

What next?
If you ask a primary school student what next? Or what do you want to become? They may reply with some grand plans or highly set ambitions. If you ask a college student the same, they might say all they need now is a job and to make money. If you ask the same to a fresher, they might say they’re looking to jump from the current job or they might say they’ll start their own startup after so and so months or years but have no idea what it is, or even worse, even though they’re not able to live life to the fullest, they’ll say “This job is putting money on the table, I’ll do it for another x years and then enjoy my life”.

Why is the time frame of their thinking reducing? Why is there a decrease in their hunger, and the intensity of their passion to go after their ambitions? Or if not both, why have they forgotten their mortality and that they might be too late to begin the lap of “enjoying life”?

Having no clue about the future is not the problem. Having no clue of the present is.

Why do people become so less capable of reflecting and analyzing their own situation and what they are experiencing within? To be more accurate, why do people choose not to reflect?

One must ask themselves this: What’s your purpose? Your goal cannot be your purpose. A purpose is the higher calling. To simplify what is a purpose, you can look at it as so, How do you like to serve humanity till your last breath? Your purpose lies in that line of work. Whatever you’re currently working on, just think about what’s next. You think this way,
because this will clarify who you are, and what makes your life fulfilled right ‘now’ and forever.

Suppose let’s say you’ve set a goal for yourself to become a professor and teach microbiology, digital electronics, or any other subject for that matter. Becoming a professor cannot be your purpose. It is just a gateway, and hence it is just a goal. And by the way, what do you teach if you do not have experience in the field you like to teach? Presentation of any data or information is not teaching.

Forget the Future
And obviously, how can one’s future be great, when in the present, they’ve focused their attention and energies very least now on the essentials? How can they enjoy their life in the future, when they’ve not cared for their health now and when they’ve not cared to know the key aspects of a fulfilled life are and when they’ve subdued their creative self for years and when they know very less about money and mainly that it is just a means to freedom, not a purpose of life.

Why does the system continue to exist?
It’s linked like a chain. The system is continuing to exist mainly because of the lack of courage in youths. And the lack of courage is due to the lack of clarity and competence in their prime age.

In other words, by the time they realize that they are being forcefully pushed into the system, which has nothing they imagined their life to be, they’ll start seeking their passion, realizing doing what they love is one of the keys to happiness.

However, Passion is not something to be discovered, it is to be built over time with continuous effort and feedback. Hence, it takes a lot of time. But all this time, they’ve spent their time and energies on what society told them was valuable, not what their gut told them would lead to their life of fulfillment.

And to be successful in one’s passionate line of work is an entirely different story and a big ask. It will take years for one to be successful at what one loves to do. But the youths do not have that kind of time at their prime age, at least they believe they do not have time because by then, society will be sitting over their heads to ask where and how and how much money they’re earning.

And when the youth become parents, they fuel this vicious cycle even more. They’ll suggest their kids make more money by taking a secure job and working hard so that they can enjoy more freedom. It sounds as though it is the right thing to do, but is it?

And speaking of right things, Dharma is within us. The question is, are you listening? If you are cheating yourself throughout the entirety of your life, how does it belong to righteousness?

Again, as stated above, it’s mainly due to the lack of clarity and competence that all this drama exists. And when youths choose to and move towards awareness, this screwed system will eventually cease to exist.

By knowing all these, the responsibilities of parents, teachers, and students/youths can be clearly understood. And through this blog, I urge you to reflect on your responsibilities as a teacher, parent, and/or as a youth.

Thank You,
Sanath Kumar Naibhi

Monthly Wrap! (September)

Monthly Wraps are blogs that are up on the last Sunday of the month which include:

  1. Blogs of the month
  2. Book recommendations 
  3. What did I curate? Resources I’m binging on – of course, I’ll be choosing the major ones. Just a brim of how much I curate!
  4. Reminders & Reflections to ponder – Of various of my reflections of the month, I’ll choose one or a few. And some re-realized reminders!
  5. My writing journey/ my book updates 

Here’s September’s “Monthly Wrap!”

Blogs I wrote this month:

  1. Blog 71: Legacy?
  2. Blog 72: Scrap your Book
  3. Blog 73: Lifestyle

Book Recommendations:

This month I could read only 2 books:

  1. The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz is a good book, unlike how it is popularized. It basically tries to convey Advaita as the deepest insight, but in very simple terms and hence feels too surface level.
  2. 21 Lessons for the 21st Century by Yuval Noah Harari is a decent book. Like his other books, Sapiens and Homodeus, this book is also very thought-provoking, but sometimes I feel, he veers his opinion a little too scattered in this book. And he has to study and try to understand the history of Bharath, Sanathana Dharma, before he speaks of it, compares it to something, or leaves it out of context and declares something is the only great thing. How is comparing Vedas to the bible or Quran even rational? And who said Hindutva is a religion to compare it with other cults? Hindutva existed before there were any religions. He knows about the varna system. But fails to understand this simple concept. He accepts the effects vipassana meditation had on him, but I fail to understand why he attributes that to Buddhism.

What I curated:

Movies:

  1. HIT:The first case
  2. Cuttputti
  3. Cadaver
  4. Flubber
  5. Heaven
  6. Pinnochio 2022 (Hats off to PIXAR!)
  7. The one and only Ivan (must watch for animal lovers)
  8. The Lost City

Series:

  1. Big hero 6
  2. Cars on the road

Apps used this month

  1. Ayurrythm – I didn’t like it. It claims it can assess our body archetype, to put in precise words, it claims to report our predominant doshas and gunas. But it did not do well for me. My observation and even as per my doctor’s observation, my body is predominantly vata type. However, the app concluded it to be ‘kalpha’. Uninstalled the app immediately after that. But I really like the idea of an app based on ayurveda and tracking our health based on it. That’s why I installed that app in the first place. But right now, it needs a lot of work.

2. Wonder – An AI app that can create images based on the keywords you give to it. Same as the starryai app I mentioned in the last month’s monthly wrap. This is good, you have more options to choose from. Many variations from abstract painting type to photorealism.

3. Fi – Basically, a digital bank. You don’t have to worry about its authenticity, when you make an account, you’re actually making an account in the Federal bank. And the founder is non other than, the founder of Tez ( now known as Google Pay). I’ve made an account, have set an auto-save fund too. It has great UI, unique looking debit card, great service as of now.

 

Reminders & reflections to ponder:

  • Courage is the power to exercise freedom
  • The difference between learning a skill and an art is that while the former has a definite time period (point A to point B), whereas the latter is an infinite journey!
  • Personal Mastery or you can say Life in general is like gardening. It’s never done. You must keep weeding, watering, etc.
  • If Y needs X, that does not mean Y is all about X. Ex: We need money to lead a happy life. But happy life is not about money. The same goes for intelligence and music. Intelligence is required to make music, but music is not about that.
  • The difference between a multi-talented and a polymath is the work. A polymath has tangible works whereas just a multi-talented, does not have much to inspire after he’s gone.
  • If you see someone as a leader, follow his path, and his principles. If not, be one. Most people do neither. They just criticize everyone who walks by.
  • Wherever and whenever there is power, there is a power play, i.e, politics
  • When there’s truth on both sides, you have to pause and deeply reflect on the issue at hand until you reach a righteous conclusion, and that helps you avoid confirmation bias.
  • You can either say “no choice” because you chose not to make a choice someday or you can say “no choice” because you chose it someday, the choice is yours

Thank You,

Yours Loving,

Sanath Kumar Naibhi

Lifestyle

If you haven’t realized yet, since I wrote Blog 68: The Biggest Problem for Humanity, I’ve been writing about what one should consider thinking about. Hence all of this month’s blogs are around that.

In my book – The Flower of Fulfillment, I mention Lifestyle as the second element in the petal of health. I’ve addressed the same in a practical way in the book, as that’s a key accent of that book. However, in today’s blog, I’d like you to “think” about your lifestyle.

What is lifestyle? I think everyone knows what it means. Mainly, lifestyle is making space and time for the fulfilled life you want to live. We’ll be looking at lifestyle in a specific way in this blog to think about and bring changes in our day-to-day life.

The 5 senses:

1. Listen

“Bhadhram Karne Bhishrunuyaama Devaaha, Bhadhram Pashyema Kshabhiryajathraaha,” says the beginning of Atharva Sheersha. Simply translating “May we with ears hear good, may we see/visualize good with eyes”. Have you wondered why listening is mentioned first? There can be various explanations for that. I’ll leave that as homework for you to work on.

LESS DELUSIONAL

Anyway, I’m starting with listening first because, even though vision constitutes more brain space than the auditory department, I think audio is more promising and less delusional. And in fact, it might be due to the fact that our vision occupies a larger brain space that it tends towards delusion.

CREATIVITY

I tell my students this:

“Music is all about listening. Listening to the music outside and inside you” Then, I realize, it’s not just music, it’s true to creativity, it’s true to life itself.

OPPORTUNITY TO INTROSPECT

When you’re speaking to someone else, listen not only to what the other person is saying but also listen to your words. You may discover various flaws, or even interests you have, by listening to what you speak. When you listen to yourself speak, what you are essentially doing is giving yourself an opportunity to introspect and contemplate.

Every word you utter is a word to yourself

2. See

Though the “see” metaphor is often used for awareness, it is rarely made a day-to-day practice.

WHAT YOU SEE

Who you are, at least your personality is simply the accumulation of memory. And since I already mentioned, our vision takes up a large part of our brain muscles, which means, it is given the highest preference. So what do these 2 facts teach us? You are what you see? Yes, but not exactly. In the right words, it would be – “You may be the accumulation of what you see”. So, be aware, be mindful of what you see.

HOW YOU SEE

I think just by reading the title you got to know the essence. How you see whatever you’re seeing also matters. And that calls for seeing yourself as though in a third-person camera perspective. Are you seeing someone’s success with your eyes of envy, criticism, and judgement? Are you looking at an exhausted person with your eyes of compassion or pity?

3. Taste

YOU’VE GOT TASTE?

Of course, you probably understood I’m talking metaphorically here. Because I’ve seen people who do not have their own taste. Own personalities. Sure, we are the amalgamation of various influences, but we should not be alike any of our influences, the amalgamation should yield something very unique.

TASTE TESTER

That happens when one hasn’t experienced life. So, what is the solution? Don’t come to conclusions before tasting a loaded variety of experiences in life. Essentially we are all like the “Taste experts” in large food companies who are there to test the batches of food or new flavors from the R&D department. The only way in which life is different is that it gives you the amount you have to eat to taste it, you can’t leave before finishing it. Anyway, be open to various experiences. And I must caution you, I’m not suggesting to be open to killing yourself with dangerous substances.

4. Smell

ENVIRONMENT MATTERS

This is not such a big issue for most people. But it is a valid concern if an individual is living in an unpleasant-smelling environment. I’ve seen rich people living in pungent rooms for the sake of their love for pets. I tell you, early humans were far cleaner, at least to what was “clean” then, because their olfactory senses were even stronger. We are gradually losing that great ability. Anyway, the point is this, the odor of your environment is affecting you without you even knowing it. Just light an incense stick or a scented candle of your favorite scent and observe the changes within.

“I SMELL….”

Don’t know why, probably it was from when we had animal-level olfactory capabilities, that we got that phrase. Our vision helps us do the majority of the work in analyzing the behavior and assuming the other person’s mental or emotional state within a fraction of a second. So, we are talking metaphorically here. Sense the situation you are dealing with. You’ll get a hint on what’s happening, most of the time. It might be even on a phone call, it might be a call for a new project or a new client. Observe if that’s a “Full-body YES” or not. If it’s not, that project or client, may not worth taking.

5. Feel

DO YOU KNOW?

This is like the taste tester we talked about, but here I want to emphasize deep experiences. How you feel is a deeper experience than just sensing something right? So that’s the difference. Do you know what it feels like to meditate in nature? Do you know what it feels like to wander alone within and across cities? Do you know what it feels like to be in a state of flow, making art? Do you know how great it feels when you teach, donate, listen to and help the needy? Do you know what it feels like to go on an artist date[A date with yourself]? Do you know what it feels like to connect the dots of various books you’ve read and make a chest of wisdom out of it? Do you know how great it feels like to wake up at 5 AM? Do you know how it feels to consistently exercise? Do you know how it feels, to tell the truth even under hard circumstances? Do you know how it feels to question your life choices and have the courage to change course?

WITHIN

Observe how you feel within, in all situations. Get more mindful. Every activity is an opportunity to observe how you feel.

Keeping all these in mind, sit calmly, and reflect on your current lifestyle. And then re-design it.

Thank You

Sanath Kumar Naibhi

Scrap your Book

By book, I’m not referring to that book we used to use in our school days which consisted of thick papers on which we were instructed to paste collages of images related to a specific theme. But, of course, you can perceive your life to be a scrapbook too. That will be more creative, than the lines of words.

A Fresh Start

Ok, the main focus here is the verb “Scarp”. I mean, discard your book. Discard your storyline so far. How you see yourself, how others see you, how you think others see you, discard all that. As
mentioned earlier, imagine your life to be a book. Scrap/discard all the pages that have been filled till now.

And I’m not suggesting something random here. Doing this may change your life. And this is exactly what led me to write my first book – The Flower of Fulfillment. And in this blog, I share the benefits and a few pointers to keep in mind while rethinking & redesigning your life.

Accountability

Of course, there’ll be some things you cannot change, like your parents, genetically inherited traits, and mainly, the actions you took till now also have a huge influence on you. But nonetheless, the whole point of this exercise is to give yourself the full authority from now on, to make choices you truly want. When you discard everything from the past and look forward to starting your life fresh from scratch, what’s happening is that you’re not only given full authority, but it also means, you’re taking full responsibility for whatever happens to your life from now on. In simple words, you are making yourself totally accountable for your life.

Think Again

And once you’ve decided to start thinking about and living your life from scratch, it’s not just full authority over your life that you get to enjoy, starting from scratch also means you are getting a second chance at designing your life. And that means you’re creating an opportunity to think about your life again. Think about all of your life choices, everything from your career, and your purpose, to your ideal relationship status.

Think about all of those again. What would be your ideal work? Why do you think it is your ideal work? Is it because it makes a lot of money or that your parents want you to become that? If it is just because of money, there are million different ways to make money. And remember, you have full authority. You are not obligated to any of your past pseudo-goals, nor to your parents, friends, cousins, etc. Think about everything from scratch.

Play the long game

Thinking all of it again also means you get to make choices like a player who’s playing the long game. We’ve already discussed this in my blog- Play the Long Game. We must see life in both ways. We must accept that we might have died yesterday or can die now or tomorrow. And at the same time, we must also see life as a long journey. Hence, when you’re rethinking all of your life choices again, think about what kind of health you wish to have when you’re 60. What amount of financial freedom do you wish to have at the age of 30? Think about what you would love to work on, till your last breath. Think about how you’ll be serving humanity till your last breath. Think about sustainability.

Now or Never

I must admit, “Now or Never” is slightly an exaggeration. I’m not discarding that someone can turn over their life completely when they wish to. But it is mostly true to most people that if you’re not able to choose and be happy now, and if you think you’ll be happy some other day far in the future, it’s not hope, it’s a delusion. Because most probably you won’t be happy. Happiness is in the now. We’ve heard this too many times that it sounds cliche now. But that’s true and we must design our daily life for happiness. And that’s why we need habits.

Habits

After you’ve thought about your life in the broadest and long view, it’s time to think about and implement habits that are essential to living the life you just imagined. For example, if you said you want to be in great health at 60, you have to ask yourselves this. Have you implemented exercising daily as your habit? Do you eat “healthy”? Do you get sound sleep every night? Have you adopted yoga as ‘the’ lifestyle? If you said no to any of these questions, then you probably cannot live the life you just dreamed of, right? If your work/career or anything is obstructing that ideal life, then it is time to rethink even that(work/career).

Awareness

And then there’s awareness, at the core of everything. To do all these, you must have awareness. You must have an awareness of life and of yourself. If you don’t know what aspects of life if at all it does, contribute how much to the fulfillment in life, how can you invest in them in your daily life? To even know what habits to inculcate and stick to, you must have awareness. And I think, my book – The Flower of Fulfillment can definitely help you here.

I’ll conclude this blog by insisting again to “Scrap your Book”. I urge you again to rethink and redesign your life keeping these pointers in your mind.

Thank you
Sanath Kumar Naibhi

Related posts:

The Habit that changed my Life!

Play the Long Game

You’re a Multi-passionate?

Are you a cog in the machine?

Not thinking is a Crime too!

The biggest problem for Humanity

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